Whenever the girls were getting changed for P.E. in high school, the (male) teacher always used to go into the girls changing room while we were in the middle of getting changed to tell us to hurry up. Half of us were in our underwear, and we were all about 15.
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My highschool PE teacher did the same thing. We’d call him out on it but he would just tell us he could do whatever he wanted.
I punched a guy bc he was making rape jokes and one of the things he said was “what’s the difference between yes and no? Nothing” so I asked him if he’d care if I punched him in the face and he said yes but I did it anyway since there’s no difference between yes and no and that’s the story of how I gave someone a bloody nose
I wonder how many rape victims have been told “I know you want it” and worked towards recovery only to have their rapist’s words spat back out at them over the radio in the form of a “sexy” pop song
I once had a guy tell me that it was a shame that I got a boyfriend, because he couldn’t “try and get it” anymore. I’d been telling him no for a year.
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Gentlemen. This is what rape culture is like:
Imagine you have a Rolex watch. Nice fancy Rolex, you bought it because you like the way it looks and you wanted to treat yourself. And then you get beaten and mugged and your Rolex is stolen. So you go to the police. Only, instead of investigating the crime, the police want to know why you were wearing a Rolex instead of a regular watch. Have you ever given a Rolex to anyone else? Is it possible you wanted to be mugged? Why didn’t you wear long sleeves to cover up the Rolex if you didn’t want to be mugged?
And then after that, everywhere you go, there are constant jokes about stealing your Rolex. People you don’t even know whistle at your Rolex and make jokes about cutting your hand off to get it. The media doesn’t help either; it portrays people who wear Rolexes as flamboyant assholes who secretly just want someone to come along and take that Rolex off their hands. When damn, all you wanted was to wear a nice watch without getting harassed for it. When you complain that you are starting to feel unsafe, people laugh you off and say that you are too uptight. Never mind you got violently attacked for the crime of wearing a friggin time piece.
Imagining all that? It sucks, doesn’t it.
Now imagine you could never take the Rolex off.”
I don’t know much about this lady but her tweets are so… skeevy.
I mean, to break it down, this is basically what she’s saying in that sponge bath one:
‘Is is true that you (Castiel) [an Angel who at the time was literally insane, who was in no fit mental state to give any form of consent, an Angel in a flipping mental hospital]
and Meg [A Demon who, over the 8 seasons has repeatedly used sex as a tool for power and control, a Demon who by her very nature of being a Demon is fundamentally a rapist because she literally has to take over, use and abuse a human’s body without their consent so she can roam free on earth]
bonded over sponge baths in the mental hospital?’
Susan can deny it all she wants but her mention of the sponge baths is clearly a sexual one. Think about it, how many cheap ass porno’s out there involve a hot man laying in a hospital bed and his sexy nurse comes in to give him a sponge bath which results in a happy ending. Add to this the fact that she was trying to make Misha laugh, then it’s pretty clear that she was using the sponge bath trope sexually.
So what she is essentially saying is ‘did the Demon, who is fundamentally a form of rapist, give the insane Angel who couldn’t possibly consent to sexual advances, a happy ending?’
(Sidenote I love Meg and her character so shh)
She just doesn’t get it. And neither does Ty Olsson, who added to the joke. People are disgusting.
#safetytipsforladies: A hashtag about how tired women are of being told to do stupid, ineffective, unrealistic things to avoid being raped.
“try becoming Medusa, or if that is too difficult, a basilisk.”
Not sure if laughing or crying.
Crying these are the most practical advise I’ve ever seen on how to avoid being raped.
faith in humanity restored
Being unconcious is not consent.
If I stabbed someone who later woke up and pressed charges, I couldn’t say “sorry, they were unconcious so I thought they wanted to be stabbed, your honor” BECAUSE THAT’S NOT HOW FUCKING CONSENT WORKS
This is a good argument that I haven’t really heard used before when talking about sexual consent. Why don’t people apply their messed up logic to other crimes? I guess they assume that people want sex all the time, from whomever wants to have sex with them.